Where are we heading? I ask again

I feel a shiver down my spine as I read about the father who murdered his own daughter. It feels creepy to exist in this world, where a man is killed and chopped into 300 pieces by a jealous lover and a father who kills his own daughter out of suspicion.

Yesterday, I came across a blog about the need to have children and adoption being the last option considered by infertile couples. The writer argues that people value their own blood even though love has nothing to do with blood.

But what does one do when there is no love at all, or if there is so much love that it kills.

Arushi Talwar was a young teenager, who openly spoke about her father’s illicit relationship. The enraged father could have sat her down and talked to her. He could have tried talking to her, as any good parent would. But he didn’t. If the father suspected Arushi of having an affair with the servant he could have again tried talking to her, but how could he tell her what she was doing was wrong, when he himself was in an illicit relationship that Arushi openly disliked. The young girl might have shown a better sense of judgement by disliking her father’s affair, but her young mind could have faltered when she got close to the servant. Who knows?

The servant, who also knew of the father’s affair could have played around with the delicate mind of the teenager, forcing her to get close to him. After all, Arushi was a vulnerable teenager. Who knows what was going on in that young girl’s mind?

All we know is that she is dead, and whether he father is guilty or not, the fact is that bad parenting killed her.

Do we think that being a certain age and being married is our license to have a child? How many couples think about financial, emotional and social responsibilities of having a child before they have one? If they don’t then why does it surprise us when we hear of an enraged mother throwing her 4 year old out of the window or a 14 yr old girl killed by her own father?

Having a child could be the greatest joy, but what follows is a huge responsibility of shaping that young mind to become a responsible, compassionate and a rational human being…

9 comments for “Where are we heading? I ask again

  1. May 24, 2008 at 5:58 am

    well the father needs to burnt instead of those burnt by the xenophobic in South Africa…

  2. leohifi
    May 25, 2008 at 11:26 am

    I feel that the daughter and the domestic help had seen some thing , and the father had to silence them both.

    I am not convinced about the mother being involved.

  3. leohifi
    May 25, 2008 at 11:36 am

    I just read the news which says that wife swapping is being probed.
    That could answer mother’s outright support for the husband and the doctor friends.

    Possibly the poor girl and the domestic help saw this act and were silenced.

    And please the girl could not be intimate.with the domestic help.She was in a good school and would not do that.

  4. nook
    May 25, 2008 at 1:56 pm

    A new revelation has come in which explains not only the killing but also the behaviour of the mother Nupur, as also the Durranis and indeed the police.

    WIFESWAPPING .

    There is ground to believe the swapping between Talwars-Durranis extended to their social circuit as well.Can you think of any other reason which explains all? None.
    The Talwars, and the Durranis ,had to silence both Arushi & Hemraj. So both killings were deliberate.
    This also explains the shameless behaviour of Nupur Talwar, and the mutually supportive praise between the Talwars & Durranis.

  5. compulsivewriter
    May 25, 2008 at 5:43 pm

    @ vishesh: hey the father has not been convicted yet but the whole circus they’re creating out of this is crazy

    @leo: yes there are different angles but i dont know whom or what to trust

    @leo and nook: i think the media is just thwoign diffrnt scenarios around… lets allow the judicial process to take its own course

  6. May 26, 2008 at 4:55 am

    Her father must have been a psychological patient. This is quite common in Pakistan as well. Killing for honor! I don’t know what do these guys want to show. Showing the world that they care for their esteem? Man… Is that what you call esteem? Bad parenting is a further level. They do not have even the basic concepts for getting settled in human race. Emotional people, lack of the basic sense.

  7. compulsivewriter
    May 26, 2008 at 5:00 am

    @Haroon: I know. Honour killings are a dishonour to the so-called democratic societies around the world… Its so depressing

  8. Akram Zaki
    June 12, 2008 at 7:30 am

    I think that nothing is clear as yet. As long as the murder weapon is not traced, no one can blame anyone. The girl did not have illicit relations and that is proved beyond doubt. Will everyone stop blaming a dead person. It will do no good to us and the dead. A father cannot kill his own daughter. If we believe that a girl’s father had secret relations, then it is no more secret that his daughter knows about it and i believe his wife would also have been in picture. killing is a crime too big to hide immoral activity. If one is immoral then i think he should have the guts to live with it and not to kill souls to hide his weak character.

  9. leohifi
    June 12, 2008 at 9:59 pm

    Seeing the streaming video of Dr Mrs Talwar, I was shocked to notice her control and stern face. See no one says that it is proven that the parents are involved but yes all the eyes are on them now.

    They might not have done it (practicaly) but surely they could not have slept through while this horrific crime was being committed.

    All the versions given to the invstigating team are contradicting each other.

    Police missing to go on terrace, my God! this is impossible to believe.

    Even if they found some thing wrong with their daughter’s behaviour,being doctors they could have sorted it out. She probably SAW something, which eventually took her life.May her soul rest in peace!

    Some how there is no grief seen in the parent’s eyes…that is why most of the people think it is them…remember eyes are the mirror to the heart!

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