Celebrating Love…

“Why are you going to the Queer Azaadi March?” asks a friend. After seeing me drool after SRK, Johnny Depp and Dempsey, she knows I am straight, so it beats her as to why I need to go participate in a cause that’s not mine. I did answer her, but not with something as lame as ‘I support it’. If you are human, have some common sense and sensitivity, you will support it.

The reason I went for the march happens to be a little different. I have a problem with people limiting homosexuality to the sexual aspect and nothing beyond. I have a problem with people not understanding the trauma of breaking the moulds of the society that are designed for the heterosexual majority. I have a problem with the fact that loving someone has to have a conditional clause that they should be of the opposite sex for it to be accepted.

I went because I think love is a beautiful emotion and it can happen between a man and a woman or a man and a man or between a woman and a woman. No matter who it happens between, love is beautiful and there should be no reason for one to hide it in the closet, least of all, because of who they chose to love.

I went to the march to say that I’m sorry. We heterosexuals are a majority and we’ve imposed our choices, our stereotypes on you. I wanted to say that I understand how traumatic it is to come out of the closet and I hope in a few years it will be easier. I wanted to walk the walk and say, you and I can’t be different just because of our sexual orientation. We love and live with passion and hey, everyone chooses who they want to love. How can that make you different?

There’s no I, me, you and them. There’s just us and together we’ll try to make it a better world, a better country (okay okay, I’m still obsessed with MJ, but I mean it!)

By the way, it was awesome to see such a turnout. It has taken us years to come on the streets and celebrate. And I’m damn proud of everyone who showed up in support. Thank you Piu, thank you ever so much for taking us along 🙂

12 comments for “Celebrating Love…

  1. August 17, 2009 at 9:14 am

    “I went to the march to say that I’m sorry. We heterosexuals are a majority and we’ve imposed our choices, our stereotypes on you. I wanted to say that I understand how traumatic it is to come out of the closet and I hope in a few years it will be easier. I wanted to walk the walk and say, you and I can’t be different just because of our sexual orientation. We love and live with passion and hey, everyone chooses who they want to love. How can that make you different?”

    There can’t be better words to express it. Beautiful.

  2. Burbleon
    August 17, 2009 at 10:18 am

    nicely put..touching..echoes what we all feel 🙂
    ‘I went to the march to say that I’m sorry. We heterosexuals are a majority and we’ve imposed our choices, our stereotypes on you’

  3. August 17, 2009 at 10:25 am

    I could not have written it any better! You steal my thoughts and you make me proud that you!

    To all people, men, women – regardless of your orientation, know that love is universal and has no code. Know that there are women and men like us who embrace you and want you to know that LOVE requires no reason.

  4. Anuja
    August 17, 2009 at 11:45 am

    Awesome! Thanks for coming 😀

  5. August 17, 2009 at 12:02 pm

    Hmm.. I like the spirit, with which you went. Love is always the right reason for doing things.

    Though, I am not too much fond of the concept of “social cause”, the concept of “making the world a better place”. It somehow does not give me a humble feeling. I, for once, am happy to say that I love something, and hence do it. Looking for any greater purpose for doing it .. feels a little brazen, may be a touch arrogant … doing it just for the love of it, is quite, peaceful, satisfying, and full of humility. At the cost of sounding preachy, don’t hate me for this 🙂 … by love I mean, deep personal love for something, not “love as a cause”.

    I sometimes feel, we should have good gay love stories in movies and novels… and I mean stories concentrating on the personal love of two beings, the beauty of it. Most movies treat it like a social issue, and I hate it. I want to see in colors and words and visuals and music … the the true feelings of same-sex lovers.

  6. August 17, 2009 at 12:12 pm

    this is so beautiful. one of your best…

    love,
    B

  7. Joss
    August 17, 2009 at 1:55 pm

    Yes, this is a great post. You have expressed yourself beautifully and have put into words all the reasons I could have gone on the Gay Pride marches here, but didn’t. I admire you for going. And you inspire me to stand up for something good and true. Shabaash.

  8. August 17, 2009 at 4:55 pm

    I don’t think ‘we’ as you and me need to feel sorry….the challenge is to make people who are against it to accept that they are one among us…Why should we include ourselves with those narrow minded people?

  9. RGC
    August 19, 2009 at 3:36 pm

    Liked the post..

    How about a post on Loving and losing because society wouldnt have agreed? say inter-religious love, the concept of prestige(a failed concept I say) and the denial of sexual choices before marriage(how many couples-arranged or love- discuss their sexual preferences b4 marriage )

  10. Neo
    August 24, 2009 at 12:10 pm

    You have been tagged!

  11. Sagar
    September 16, 2009 at 9:27 am

    It wil take sometime for everyone to realise what you jus wrote……But surely that time wil come 😀

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